We have never been one for conforming to gender stereotypes. I am lucky that my husband also has no issues when it comes to J playing with ‘boy’ or ‘girl’ toys. When J was born we always said he could play with whatever toys he wanted. We bought him a wooden kitchen as he loved ‘cooking’. The kitchen went to live in his wooden playhouse when it got built, mainly because we wanted the space in the house back. As he grew up it was clear that he had a kind and gentle nature and he often gravitated towards playing with dolls and prams. Ironically just before we found out we were pregnant we got J a baby Annabell doll brother. He absolutely loved it as you can see in our Baby Annabell Brother Review.
J got a pram for his birthday as it was one of the main things he really wanted. When visiting friends houses he always wanted to play families, J is always the default dad. There was once a domestic when he wanted to be the mum and the little girl he was playing with wouldn’t let him, as she was the girl. Easy solution… a two mum family. I would have been quite happy for J to have a pink pram as they are so easily available to find, however, a family member managed to track down a more ‘boyish’ pram for him which he loves. He actually really likes the flower that is on the hood of the pram. The pram is a double buggy and J loves taking his babies out for a walk, especially when I am pushing C in her pram at the same time. We have had to take his pram on the school run on at least one occasion. This is quite comical as I more often that not use a sling on the school run to carry C. This ends up with me dragging a toy pram behind me on the way home after avoiding having to push a normal one.
We were very kindly given a load of clothes from J’s baby cousin for C. Some of the items of clothing didn’t make it into C’s wardrobe. J quickly pinched a coat for his baby when we go out and it looks like it might rain. I’m sure a few people have mistaken his doll for a real baby at some point.
We were recently sent a Baby Annabell® Potty Training Set to add to our collection. In the set, you get a potty, a powder bottle, wipes in sheep dispenser and three nappies.
J has enjoyed using these accessories to enrich his imaginative play with his baby. Did I mention his baby is randomly called ‘Backroad’? Rather than using the oversized nappies we have for C, he loves the fact that his baby has her own nappies. He has taken to carrying around a little flowery bag as a changing bag for his baby. He loves the fact that the wipes dispenser is shaped as a sheep as he has a little baby baa-lamb Teddy that he is attached to at the moment. I did have to explain to him what the powder was for as this is something we never have used on him or C. The only thing that frustrates him is the fact that the baby won’t sit on the potty without falling off. J has been potty trained for a long time now but this would be a great set for helping a child that is potty training.
I was recently made aware of a book on Kickstarter which is called Yes You can.
YES YOU CAN shows kids that ALL toys, colours, clothes & hobbies are for ALL children by shining a light on gender stereotypes in a child-friendly way. The book also encourages children to find their spark, do what they love and be proud to be themselves.
This is the type of book I want my children to be reading. I hate the fact that you get books for boys and books for girls. What is wrong with a boy wanting to read about princesses or girls about dragons and dinosaurs.