We didnt find out the gender of our first baby as we wanted to have that suprise to look forward to. I remember when I got closer to the end of pregnancy thinking I wish I knew the gender as I would have been able to be a bit more prepaired. As it was we did really well buying unisex clothing and as J was so small when he was born he was about 3 months old before we started getting gender specific clothing.
Even before we even discussed the option of having a second child I also had it in my head that ‘if’ we were to have another child I would want to find out the gender. Not particually so I could go out and buy a load of blue or pink clothing, infact if you know me you will know im actually quite anti baby blue and baby pink. I would want to know o that we could be more organised.
When we found out we were expecting again D and I had the conversation of if we wanted to find out. D didnt at first but once I explained my reasonings it made perfect sense to him to find out the gender. The main reasons i wanted to find out was for practicallity perposes.
We have kept all of J’s clothing as he outgrow them. This meant the we had a loft full of not only general baby pharafanaila but a spare wardrobe full of bags and bags of clothing. We were lucky enough to be given bags of clothing second hand when J was born. If we were to have another boy then it would save us a fortune in having to buy any more clothes. On the flip side if we were to have a girl then we could sort through all the clothing and decide what we would keep and pass on the clothing to someone else who needed it.
Another reason we wanted to find out was so that I could prepare J for the new babys arrival. We are lucky that he is really excited by the idea of having a new baby but once we knew the gender we would be able to refer to it as his little brother or sister. Add into this that J is adamnt that the baby is a girl, probably because of his new girl cousin, if this wasnt the case we would have to prepare him for the baby being a boy.
When we told people we wanted to find out the gender a few people asked if we wanted a girl. Our answer was simple…. we really were not bothered either way. Firstly the 20 week scan isnt a gender scan, it’s a scan first and formost to check how baby is growing and that hopefully nothing is wrong. I think a lot of people forget about this but I know there are people like myself that don’t truly relax into pregnancy until they have had both the 12 week scan and the 20 week one.
We love the idea of having another boy as J is so awesome and mischevious. I think the fact that D is the middle of 3 brothers makes us quite like the idea of having ‘our boys’.
We love the idea of having a girl as then we can experiance the differnce in raising both genders. Girls sleep better as well aparently hahaha.
Baby was being akwad at the 20 week scan and kept scrunching itself up making it difficult for the sonographer to get babys measurements. This resulted in having to prod baby and use a cushion to try and get baby to move into a better posision. We thought that because of this we wouldnt be able to find out the gender. However we did
However we did, drum roll …….