My 5 minutes of #TimetoTalk – Postnatal Depression


My 5 minutes of #TimetoTalk – Postnatal Depression



I hadn’t heard about this until I saw it all over twitter this morning. I am glad that people are finally talking about mental health and trying to break the stigma.

My personal short Story ;

I am a first time mum to J , I have suffered from PND since he was born. In the newborn days I use to get panic attacks which stopped me going out of the house. When I did go out I thought everyone was staring at me and judging me. Why was he crying? Why does she look so tired? etc.. I had to start by just walking around the block and built it up from there. I avoided bumping into anyone to avoid conversation

I had a few sessions of CBT therapy, this helped immensely, although I didn’t feel like it did.  I started taking Anti depressants which helped but after a few months I ran out and stopped taking them.  I went on a downward spiral, this meant I didn’t want to go out again. I eventually got the courage to go back to the doctors and have started taking Anti Depressants again. I can honestly say they are helping me .  I still have bad days but I am definitely surviving better.

I also have a husband who suffers from Depression. He has for years, I would like to say I was an understanding person before,  but I understand a lot more now.

I hate the fact that some people still don’t understand depression. Understand is the wrong word. Accept?? The amount of times I have heard “I don’t get it , what do you have to be depressed about” “you have a husband a house and a child”

People that think depression is a choice annoy me. I hate it when people say “I’m so depressed ” “that’s depressing”

Depression is when you don’t want to get out of bed for the day, not because you are tired but because you just want to lie stareing into space.

Depression makes you not want to play with your child, you would rather just sit and stare into space.

Depression makes you into someone you are not. Depression makes you think about just packing a bag and leaving.

Depression is like a big black cloud that hovers above you. Sometimes a bit of sun may shine out and you may have a good day. However just because you can smile occasionally and laugh and joke it doesn’t make you OK.

If you can take 5 minutes to talk to someone about Mental health you may be surprised what your convosation turns into. You may find that you are not the only one suffering, or you may make one persons day that little bit easier.

#TimetoTalk TimetoChange

The Uncheshire Wife



  1. martyn says:

    Good post.

    I still find it strange how in a modern world that we still have to do things like #timetotalk I understand and think it is great that they’re doing it and from a guy having a variety of MH issues I will always support it. But wouldn’t it be great if we could just talk.
    They way you have described your depression is great. it is spot on and is often difficult to explain as there are so many aspects of it. I hope your hub is comfortable talking about it…its why I did my post on it. MH needs to be spoken about more from all genders. Great post!!
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  2. Claire Miller says:

    I completely agree with Martyn 🙂 Think it’s great that you have spoken about as it will show that many people get PND and ordinary depression. I had post traumatic stress disorder after a traumatic birth and it was blog posts like this that helped.
    Great post x

  3. Nortonmum says:

    Thank you so much for linking to #TalkaiTues My Mum suffered with depression and I too get angry with the random use of the word. We never talked about it lets hope #Timetotalk encourages talk. When medication made my mum feel better she would think she didn’t need it anymore, it can be a vicious circle. I wish you well x
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  4. Tracey Williams says:

    This is such a great post and I am really sorry you are suffering. My Mum has suffered several breakdowns and this has made talking about mental health so much easier for me. I also have a close friend who suffers with depression. We need to keep talking about mental health as much as we do about cancer. Its not an illness to be embarrassed about. hugs xx
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    • Alyssa says:

      thank you , its amazing how common depression is considering not a lot of people like talking about it. i hope your mum and friend are doing okish at the moment

  5. Alyssa says:

    thank you Tor. Sorry to hear about your mum, its a horrible thing. i have found meds and CBT a big help. I actually go to a local support group / play group which helps massively as well. Hope your mum can accept some help soon.

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